Category — Babyhood

Amaia is freaking WALKING.

Amaia took her first steps last Saturday, but didn’t take a step for the rest of the week. This Friday, she took a few steps here and there, but I wasn’t getting my hopes up. Then, yesterday (Saturday), she got up — and hasn’t crawled since.

What’s amazing is that, even though crawling would get her around faster, she is determined to perfect her walking skills. She wobbles a few steps, catches her balance, pauses. Takes a few more steps, falls on her butt, and gets right back up to keep on wobbling. Crawling is soooo two days ago.

As of three months ago, we had this child in a neurologist’s office, convinced she had cerebral palsy. Now, she’s walking. Sigh.

Amaia took her first three steps today. THREE STEPS.

I set her down on the ground in a standing position and you could just SEE the gears going. She wanted to go forward. Really, really wanted to. First, she sort of walked in place: picked up one foot, then the other, not moving forward. Yet.

“Dude, she’s totally thinking about walking. Look at her.” I told Chris.

Amaia leaned onto one leg and pointed the other toe, poising herself . . .

“DUDE! Look look look! Look at her! She’s going to do it!”

Chris and I both stared and smiled, smiled and stared, trying not to freak her out. Waiting . . .

The pointed toe moved forward. Then the other foot lifted and moved, then the other foot caught up!

And then she fell on her diapered little butt.

Total pandemonium. Chris jumped up and down. I jumped up and down. The twins hugged our legs and laughed hysterically. Pure and total joy.

This, from the baby who could not sit up on her own just two short months ago.

This, from the baby who has us in and out of neurologists and gastroenterologists and speech pathologists and god knows what other -ologists yet to be determined.

Video to come, hopefully!

Long, long post ahead. You’ve been warned.

I have a confession to make:

I don’t want to breastfeed anymore.

Okay, okay. Settle down. Put down the gun. Stop crying. Let me explain.

I had a truly magical and amazing breastfeeding experience with the twins. We weaned at 16.5 months because, for my own mental health, I needed to, not because I wanted to or was ready to. I loved nursing them. They were enthusiastic eaters (most of the time) and were easy and enjoyable to feed (most of the time).

But Amaia has been a problem feeder since day one. For the first few months, she had a constant and inexplicable loss of suction while nursing. It drove me batshit. I couldn’t figure out what the problem was, since my lactation counselor ruled out tongue-tie. She always choked on my milk, screamed and arched her back after eating, popped on and off the breast constantly, and cried all the time. We both seemed miserable.

The look on Amaia

After that rough patch was over, we had a few truly beautiful, blissful months where nursing was all I remembered it being with the twins. She nursed frequently and fairly well. I was more confident and we happily nursed anywhere and everywhere. And while it was pretty awesome, I suspected she wasn’t quite emptying my breasts. I had to move her back and forth after she would pull away to make sure she got all the hindmilk.

And then . . . Well, things started sucking again (so to speak, har har). She began with the screaming, arching, and crying after feeding again. She would start and stop feeding, or reject feeding altogether. She seemed to hate nursing. I was a total wreck.

It got worse. She would pop and and off so much during the let-down phase that it would take forever for my milk to start flowing. She started getting impatient and pushing away from my breast when the milk didn’t come, which would stress me out, which would make my let-down take even longer, which would make her cry and completely reject the feeding, which would make me cry.

And I started to completely dread nursing her.

Still, I persevered. I was NOT going to give up before a year was up. Babies are meant to breastfeed and my simple task was to provide her milk. I was thankful, though, that by this point, she was finally taking solids — a milestone which took her a good six weeks to master after the introduction of solid foods (so do the math — that means she was exclusively breastfed for 7.5 mostly miserable months. Good god.).

Although she was a difficult case, she didn’t have problems with weight gain. Until we saw the pediatrician at 10 months.

Amaia had fallen completely off her growth curve. I can’t remember what the difference was now, but it was drastic. She had gained a mere four ounces in as many months. The doctor slapped her with the label that no breastfeeding mother wants to hear:

Failure to Thrive.

Failure. To. Thrive. Me? Amaia? Us? Are you kidding?!? Failure to Thrive was for schedule feeders, Baby-Wisers, mothers who refused to breastfeed their babies because it wasn’t convenient. I had shoved a boob in this baby’s mouth at the slightest peep since she was born. If anything, my twins were scheduled! How the hell do you explain this???

I was devastated. Mortified. Shocked. Depressed. Furious. Defensive. And ultimately, I felt utterly defeated. After all I’d gone through to that point, after the intense focus on nursing her despite the ongoing issues . . . The feeling of failure was overwhelming. A mother can provide her baby with the most basic of needs: comfort, clothing, shelter, and food. And I had failed at the most essential of those.

My baby was FAILING TO THRIVE in my care.

I left the visit in tears that day and immediately called my lactation counselor. After a 10-minute interrogation, she strongly suspected that Amaia had reflux the whole time.

Reflux. Never in a million years would I have thought it because Amaia’s wasn’t a spitter-upper. She didn’t vomit and she slept well. But apparently, it was still possible to have reflux without vomiting.

I called the pediatrician and hashed it out with him. I had never discussed with him all of the problems we’d had with nursing and solid foods. I always just assumed that it was an individual quirk, an “infant thing” that Amaia would outgrow. As miserable as it was, I assumed it was all no big deal. I was an experienced mother and was taking the laid-back approach this time around.  I had nursed twins. I knew everything, dammit!

From then on, I had to completely change my approach to nursing and feeding Amaia. I nursed her sitting almost upright. Immediately, she stopped crying after feeding. She was noticeably more content with nursing  (as was I) and would even comfort nurse — something she had never done. I added back nursing sessions and made sure she emptied my breasts.

I had to start examining every last morsel of food she ate. No more Mum-Mums, Puffs, Cheerios, or plain baby foods. It was all about real coconut milk, avocados, egg yolks, full-fat cheese, cream cheese, butter, olive oil, whole-milk yogurt, protein. I had to start reading the labels on baby foods and would only buy things that were at least 80 calories per serving.

I became obsessed.

And it worked. Since mid-October, Amaia has gained a little over three pounds. Every last ounce was earned with my blood, sweat, and (many) tears. She’s back on a normal growth curve (20th percentile on the WHO charts).

Additionally, I took her to a GI specialist and had FOUR VIALS of bloodwork taken out of my tiny little baby. (The phlebotomist took one look at her and asked how much she weighed — she wasn’t sure she’d be able to even take that much blood from such a small baby. Sigh.) Her bloodwork came back totally normal, with great iron levels and nothing out of sorts. But the GI doctor has ordered a feeding evaluation, citing that she’s a poor feeder and might be having something more going on with swallowing or texture issues.

So this brings us to today. Amaia now drinks whole milk, and I estimate she gets about as much whole milk as she does breast milk — probably 8 total ounces of breast, 8 of cow’s milk. She only nurses three to four times a day now. But aside from the first nursing session of the day, it’s pretty miserable and pointless. She gets a good bit of milk in the morning, but every other time she nurses for anywhere from 10 seconds to MAYBE two minutes per breast. She can’t be getting more than an ounce total from both breasts on a longer session.

Plus, she has started this weird habit over the past few days of stretching her arms straight against my chest so that she’s pushing me away — which, in turn, pulls my boob out and strrrrrrrrretches my nipple taut.

It feels really, really awesome. Especially when her teeth scrape against my nipple. You’ll just have to trust me on that one.

All I can conclude is that she’s just not interested in nursing anymore — and frankly, neither am I.

On the one hand, I feel like a complete failure. I really, really wanted to nurse for a long time this time, at least as long as with the twins, but preferably longer. I know that I have breastfed longer than 80% of mothers in the U.S. That’s awesome, right? I have given Amaia a lifelong gift that most children don’t get.  Yadda yadda.

But that’s not the point. I don’t breastfeed to get an award or for bragging rights. There’s obviously a major emotional component to breastfeeding, but I do it because human babies are supposed to drink human breast milk. That’s not meant to offend anyone — it’s just a fact. Even the cow’s milk she drinks is not designed for her gut. And to not be successful at it, to not even want to do it anymore because of such a poor experience over the course of over a year, feels really shitty.

But some days I end up so miserable, I’m convinced that I won’t even nurse her the next morning.

At this point, I’m just going to continue to do what we’re doing while focusing on ways to keep her calorie count up while relying less and less on my milk.

And I’ll be thankful that we made it this far, even though I mourn the nursing relationship and experience that I so deeply wanted.

From the moment you were born, I fell in love with you.

And I’ve fallen in love with you over and over again every single day.

Happy first birthday, little Amaia. Ama loves you so much.

Between the twins’ birthday party last month, and the baby getting ready to turn one in just a couple of days (OMFG ONE WOT???), we are seriously broke in party mode around here.

With having the extra party now to do every year, I’m starting to learn a little about pulling off a kids’ birthday party. Now, I’m no expert. I have hosted a whopping four parties in three years. But I’m a quick study!

Now, chances are, all the stuff I’m about to share with you is blindingly obvious to everyone else. But, to me, it wasn’t. So I’m just passing along the information in case it helps someone else out.

The twins’ birthday party this year was at a local park. I was FREAKING OUT because I’m bi-polar not taking meds. I am NOT a kids’ party-planning person. I don’t do themes, I have no organizational skills, I don’t know how to decorate and I hate the outdoors. Last year, we had their party at an indoor kids’ gym where everything was done for me. The year before that was a gathering at our house (wherein I was cruelly introduced to the necessity of a theme for a child’s birthday party).

So, an outdoor party, planned entirely by me, to accommodate about 40 adults and children? Well, this was going to be interesting.

My experience so far has been that, out of your invite list, maybe 75% of people say they can attend, and only 40% of those people actually show up. So, I scaled back the food and party favors slightly.

Lesson #1: DO NOT SCALE BACK FOOD AND PARTY FAVORS SLIGHTLY.

Yes, I am shouting! At you! Because you know what happened? Everybody showed up. EVERYBODY. And some of their friends! Seriously, people? When did you actually start showing up when you say you’re going to?

We ran out of food and favors and I felt like a total dick. We seriously had like a slice of cheese and two grapes leftover. Thank god my kids don’t eat sandwiches, because we would have had negative cheese and no grapes leftover.

That brings me to:

Lesson #2: Choose your location wisely, especially if you’re lazy,

and

Lesson #3: Let location dictate theme — or lack thereof.

On the plus side, the park was built-in entertainment. The picnic tables were shaded, so I just sat there all comfortable and mom-like and I didn’t actually have to play with the children even once.

Plus, having the party at a park meant I was off the hook for theme-y decorations. I spent about $40 on tablecloths, two sizes of plates, cups, utensils, two balloon arrangements and a generic “Happy Birthday” banner (which I re-used at Amaia’s party) by buying the generic, birthday-themed supplies at BJ’s instead of the cute, expensive-as-hell theme decorations from the party supply store. In fact, I originally bought a full set of themed decorations for almost $130 at the party store, meaning I saved $90.

Speaking of budget,

Lesson #4: DIY doesn’t always mean savings.

I may have saved on decorations, but we actually spent a lot more money by doing it all ourselves. The kids’ gym party last year cost about $325 total, including our gifts to the kids, party favors, cupcakes, balloons, and food for the adults (the kids’ food was included in the gym rental).

The DIY park party cost closer to $500. You know, because we have $500 just laying around. Renting the stupid picnic tables alone cost $110 for four hours, and that didn’t include jack shit except the right to tell people to get the hell off our tables (WHICH I DID).

Now, for Amaia’s first birthday party, I invited some of the twins’ friends over for a cupcake-decorating party. As I Googled ideas for party favors and crafts, I came across the idea of giving every child an apron that they could decorate themselves and take home, along with extra cupcakes, as their favor.

I loved the idea. Not only was it a welcome relief from the bags of throw-away trinkets that you get at most parties, but it would actually end up being cheaper than the party favor bags.

I got a dozen colorful aprons on Amazon for a mere $9.50 shipped (with Amazon Prime; price of the apron will fluctuate a bit). I paid less than $5 for the cupcake supplies. Considering a party favor bag full of crap will run you in the range of $2-3 per bag, this was a big savings.

Then, I had another idea: What if I personalized every apron by stenciling each child’s name on it beforehand? Wouldn’t that be awesome?!??

Then: Am I out of my fucking mind? What business do I have with paint and stencils? I can barely dress myself, let alone create something that involves color coordination and, like, not writing like a five year old.

Lesson #5: You, too, can stencil.

Holy shit you guys, my stenciled aprons came out awesome. Check it out.

Okay, so you could totally see the pencil lines where I lined up the letters. And I smeared the paint on most of them. And a couple of them came out downright ugly and I felt really bad giving it the kid. BUT. I fucking stenciled, people. STENCILED.

The point is, it’s okay to step out of your comfort zone for your kids. Just don’t expect perfection and make no apologies for it.

For crafts, the older kids got to decorate their own cupcakes and totally fuck up all my stencil work draw on their aprons (I bought fabric markers for that — no way was I going to have a dozen three-year-old kids running around with fabric paint in the house).

I was a bit nervous about the kids getting to work with food and frosting and whatnot. But, thankfully, I was wrong!

Lesson #6: Decorating food can actually be a very do-able and not-too-messy craft for little kids who dirty everything else up.

For toppings, I put out bowls of gummy bears, colored marshmallows, rainbow sprinkles, crushed Oreos, plain M&M’s, and these seasonal gingerbread-man marshmallows. The kids had a BLAST. There really was minimal mess, and only one kid took a scoop of sprinkles and ate it directly. (Side note: I would suggest cutting the Oreos into recognizable pieces; no one used them and now I have a bag of crushed Oreos I refuse to throw out.)

The party turned out great and we had a ton of food left over, thanks to the aforementioned fact that I’m a quick study and I over-planned the food this time. Which reminds me,

Lesson #7: Pizza is cheaper than sandwiches

Shop around for the main course if you don’t make it yourself. For instance, around these parts, a deli party sandwich from the popular supermarket, Publix, will run you $19.99 per sandwich, which feeds 8. A comparable sandwich from the less-popular Sweetbay is just $11.99 (also feeds 8).

Now, a one-topping medium pizza from Domino’s, which can also be ordered ahead of time and delivered to your door? $5.55. Also feeds 8.

We basically paid almost half for the food. That’s a big deal, so to speak.

And finally, speaking of food,

Lesson #8: Make your own fruit and vegetable platters

Those fruit and vegetable platters at the supermarket are a major rip, right? And the food is half-old and the dip is nasty, anyway. I comparison shopped between the supermarket sales and the wholesale market, and made gigantic fruit and vegetable trays myself, with premium dipping sauce, for about the same price as the prepared trays — with leftovers.

I chose the fare wisely — only stuff that required minimal or no chopping. For fruit: strawberries (locally grown, even), grapes, and cantaloupe. Veggies: cherry tomatoes, broccoli, cauliflower, and skinny baby carrots.

Everyone had a great time. And you know what? There was no mess difference between two kids or 12. Our house still looked like a complete and total disaster.

Oh, and in case you were wondering . . . Amaia beat the hell out of her cupcake. She may look nothing like me, but she sure knows what to do with her dessert. Happy birthday, little baby.

Take  a look at this photo.

And this one, too.

Don’t see anything remarkable?

For most 11-month-old babies, there isn’t anything, in fact, remarkable about these photos. They show a baby reaching upward on hands and knees, and a baby standing, supported by a chair.

But for us, this is freaking amazing.

You see, since Amaia learned to sit up at about 7 months and scoot at 8 months, she has made zero progress in the motor skills department. Now, at over 11 months old, she can’t sit up on her own or get out of a seated position. She doesn’t get on hands and knees. She doesn’t take steps when you stand her up and move her body forward. She doesn’t pull up onto anything and has only in the past few weeks started putting her heels on the ground if you stand her up. She doesn’t hold onto things for balance (the shopping cart rail, for instance). It’s hard to describe, but there seems to be a disconnect between her upper and lower body, between her brain and her limbs.

There are a few other things that have us worried. She trembles violently when excited or startled. She beats and scissors her ankles together and twists her hands in wringing motions. She grimaces and clenches her right fist while extending the left.

We have grown increasingly worried over the past few months. Her crawl caused me to get very scared when I saw a video of a 9-month-old baby with cerebral palsy with the same crawl.

I’ve been bringing up my concerns to the pediatrician since Amaia was 6 months old. I remarked that things seemed to take her much longer to learn than they did for the twins. At her six-month appointment, I told him about the tremors. At the nine-month appointments (all four of them), I talked about the odd crawling pattern (using only the left big toe to push off and the right elbow to pull forward; right leg is stiff and left hand half-times along for the ride), the complete lack of motor skills development, the tremors, the scissoring. He has repeatedly stated that he doesn’t feel she’s delayed or shows any signs to be concerned about. She tracks with her eyes, transfers objects from hand to hand, has a good grip and balanced muscle tone. She verbalizes and has appropriate emotional responses. She’s alert and bright-eyed.

Still, something just hasn’t felt right. Look, I know all babies develop at their own pace. I know Amaia certainly isn’t the most worrisome case on the planet, and I’m sure some of you reading have stories to share. BUT. Amaia is MY baby and I’m worried. And it takes a lot to un-worry a worried mother.

So, because I tend to react with every weapon available, I made an appointment with a neurologist as well as with Early Steps for a developmental evaluation, both in early December. I vacillate between being terrified and convinced there’s something wrong with her, to feeling like she’s probably just a slow-poke and I need to calm down.

So, to see Amaia randomly pull up on that chair yesterday, and FINALLY get up onto hands and knees . . . at over 11 MONTHS old . . . Well, I just can’t tell you the relief I feel. It’s a step (**groan**) in the right direction.

Throughout the years, I’ve documented my ups and downs with bipolar/depression here. (I always feel the need to temper the word “bipolar” with the word “depression” because the former generally invokes visions of a manic person staying awake for a week while they paint the corners of their closets and then cry for three days. [Or maybe that's crystal meth?] I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar II, a milder form of bipolar disorder that consists of euphoric highs cycled with very deep, dark lows.) Unfortunately, it’s a constant part of my life. I don’t deal with it well. It’s uncomfortable. And perhaps the worst part is that I can feel it coming on.

When I’m in my euphoria, life is AWESOME. I’m happy, bubbly, expressive, fun, maybe a little wild (okay, maybe pretty wild. I try to blur out most of my teens years and 20′s because some of the stuff I did makes me cringe.). I convince myself that everything is okay and that my depressive bouts must be a distant memory — that this time, things will be different.

It never is. It never, ever is.

Since having Amaia, I’ve been mostly stable. Even as recent as a few weeks ago, I felt pretty great. Life was fulfilling and I had a positive and generally even-tempered outlook on things. The regular exercise must be helping, I told myself. Having a break while the girls are in school is really doing wonders, I thought.

But I kept looking over my shoulder, feeling that the next depressive low was just around the corner. Like I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Of course, the shoe dropped. It’s dropping now. I’m not doing well. Again. It’s not as bad as it was when it hit after the twins, but it’s not good. Every day, every hour, feels harder than the last. I’m holding onto my sanity by ever-thinning threads. I feel like some days are getting too much for me to handle. I need more help than I can possibly bring myself to ask for — because of course, asking for help makes me a fucking HORRIBLE mother, which intensifies the feelings of worthlessness, failure, guilt, and anxiety.

Interestingly, I noticed that the downward turn coincides with the return of my period — just as it did last time when my period came back after the twins. The hormones probably have a big impact and it makes me wonder how things will look after I finish nursing.

And speaking of nursing, the onset of a depressive episode reminds me of how long this rollercoaster has been going on — the pregnant-nursing-weaning-woops-pregnant-again-nursing-again-need-to-wean-soon rollercoaster, that is. I had only weaned the twins because I needed to get back on my medication (Lamictal), only to immediately get pregnant with Amaia as soon as I weaned.

I do NOT want to stop breastfeeding because of this FUCKING disorder. BUT. I can’t go on like this. I’m not a good mom like this. I am NOT a good mom like this.

I know there’s more to me than what I feel now. I know that I can love and feel good again. I know because I’ve felt it.

So I will eventually wean Amaia because I love her that much. I love all my kids that much.

The baby is now 9.5 months old and I’m getting close to being able to do that. I just need to hang in there for a few more months.

Well, hell! Amaia went and turned nine months old and I’m just now getting a chance to catch up. How is she doing?

Eating

As solids become more and more a part of Amaia’s everyday diet, she nurses less and my milk supply is taking a major hit.

Currently, she nurses 4-5 times a day and has 2-3 meals of baby food and other miscellaneous finger food, including puffs, Mum Mums, pieces of bread and fruit. She still chokes on some chunkier stuff, so we have to be careful. Meanwhile, as my milk supply drops, my letdown reflex takes longer and longer . . . which means the baby becomes impatient and upset, latching and unlatching over and over again . . . which in turns stresses me out . . . which consequently prohibits an ejection reflex at all. Sometimes, I get so stressed out by how long it takes for my milk to let down that I don’t have a let down at all, and we have to stop altogether. It’s all very upsetting.

Looking back at where the twins were at nine months, though, Amaia has the same eating habits. I’ve been taking Fenugreek just to be on the safe side. I’m also finding it helpful to have a little toy or other object handy to distract the baby while she nurses so that my milk has time to come in. She refuses to drink milk out of anything but the breast (or mixed with cereal), so I can’t even try pumping and feeding her from a cup or straw until we hit the one-year mark. I’m just trying to keep my patience and take it one nursing at a time.

Sleeping

Hallelujah, people! After eight months of interrupted sleep, I’m finally sleeping through the night! And so is the baby! I can’t tell you what a difference a full-night’s sleep makes on my perspective. The baby sleeps from 8pm to about 7:30am. She’s just as awesome as the girls were when they were babies — she just wakes up and mumbles and sings to herself until someone comes to get her.

As far as napping goes, she will no longer doze off in a bouncy seat, so she only takes a morning nap if we’re in the car for longer than 10 minutes in the morning. She always takes a really super awesome three-hour nap in the afternoon from about 1pm – 4pm. It’s heavenly.

Sizes

Though she fits into 9-12 month, Amaia’s on the long side so I have her in 12 month onesies. Her waist and hips are small, though, so she can fit into smaller pants (though I personally believe they use freakishly gigantic babies for pants models — those things are HUGE, right???). She’s in a size 3 diaper. I’m guessing she’s around 17 pounds, but we haven’t had her nine-month appointment yet so I’m not sure. I’m pretty certain she’s lighter than the twins were at this age, though.

Personality

I think this photo says it all about Amaia’s personality:

I’m telling you, this baby is so freaking happy. She smiles and smiles, laughs, talks to herself, sings, dances to music, gleefully kicks her feet and waves her hands. Overall, she’s just a really pleasant, observant, enjoyable baby. She LOVES little kids, especially little girls and, more than anything, her big sisters. She gets pretty freaked out with aggressive little boys, though.

Something noticeable with Amaia is that she’s incredibly attached to me. She often gets really upset if she sees me leave a room. Come dinner time, no one will do but Ama. As soon as I get home from the gym in the evenings, I pretty much have to tote her around until she goes to bed, or else she’ll just whine and cry.

Milestones

Amaia is still just scooting, not crawling. I can’t help but compare to the twins, who were pulling to a stand and trying to stand independently already by now, but I know that Amaia is just doing things her way. She’s a far more sociable baby than the twins were, so it’s just a matter of her individual demeanor.

She has four teeth so far — the bottom two center ones and, oddly, the top center and left incisor. The second top center tooth and right incisor are at the point of breaking through, too. Thankfully, she hasn’t used her teeth while nursing.

Still no hair to speak of. Poor kid.

This month, she also went in a swing for the first time. She LOVED it!

Baby girl randomly slept through the night and woke up knowing how to army crawl.

She is almost 8 months old. Elise was scooting at 6 months. On the one hand, I couldn’t help but compare and wonder how long it would take Amaia to catch up. On the other hand? Well, I have twin almost-three-year-olds. I have been very appreciative of Amaia’s lack of mobility.

Sigh. Her babyhood is going far too fast for me.

Holy crap, Amaia is six months old??!? How did this happen?

As with the twins, I’ll document basic baby facts here about Amaia’s growth and development. Sorry, not the most thrilling post!

Eating

After a rocky start that included mastitis, thrush, and an inexplicable constant loss of suction during nursing, Amaia is now breastfeeding like a natural. She nurses five to seven times a day, still waking once in the night to feed.

A few days ago, I stocked up on organic baby foods and gave her a first taste of pureed apples. She was six months old and showing all the signs of being ready: sits assisted, no tongue-thrust reflex, very interested in what we’re eating and drinking. The result? Zero interest.

After three failed attempts at apples, I reverted to the basics: cereal thinned with breastmilk, figuring that the familiar taste of milk might make her more amenable to the solid food experience.

Aaaaand that would be a no. Mostly, she just purses her lips shut so tightly, I can’t even get the spoon in.

Schedule

Amaia has a lovely routine:

7/7:30am: Wake, eat

Sometime between 10-11am: Cat nap wherever she is, eat

1pm: Eat, sleep

4:30/5pm: Wake, eat

8:30pm: Eat, sleep

3am: Eat, sleep

Yes, you read that right: She naps for 3-4 hours straight in the afternoon. The twins still nap for about three hours in the afternoon as well. This gives me an extremely welcomed break most days, which allows me to exercise or watch TV.

Milestones

This is where I can’t help but compare Amaia to the twins. She is not nearly as advanced as the twins were. Elise and Althea were rolling all over the place by five months old. Elise started scooting at six months and both twins were practicing sitting up by now. In contrast, Amaia just started rolling from back to belly at five months and is just now rolling more regularly and in her sleep. Though she sits assisted, Amaia is nowhere near sitting on her own.

One thing she does seem to be interested in, though, is pulling her knees under her body and rotating around a lot. Girlfriend’s got some scheming ideas going on.

Now that she is rolling onto her belly during sleep, she has outgrown the bassinet in our room. It’s really time to get her in the crib at night, but the thought of having to leave the bed and trudge to her room to nurse at 3am makes me want to weep. How did I do this with the twins???

Sizes

At her six-month well check today, Amaia was just shy of 15 pounds and was 26.5 inches long. She’s in the 75th percentile for height and below the 50th for weight. She’s moving on to size 3 diapers and is in 6-9 month clothes.

Though our current pediatrician and I discussed sizes and growth charts with the twins early on, I think we’ve really come to understand each other and he gets my confidence in my ability to nourish my kids. I can’t tell you what a relief it is to have a supportive doctor who takes the time to look at the baby’s overall growth pattern, as well as the size of the parents, rather than just the percentage on a chart.

Personality

Okay, there’s going to be some comparison here too.

Elise and Althea are serious kids. In unfamiliar situations and with new people, they are reluctant, quiet and sometimes lack self-confidence. They are extremely attuned to people’s energy and will react accordingly. They are happy kids but, in general, they’ve never been particularly quick to smile.

Amaia, on the other hand, is what my mother-in-law calls a Personality Plus. This baby is HAPPY. She smiles and squeals and laughs at strangers. When her sisters pay her even the slightest attention, she lights up like a thousand candles. Indeed, she LOVES LOVES LOVES her sisters and all little kids. She’s very friendly and outgoing — much different from the twins.

I mean, seriously. Look at this baby. That is sheer JOY.