Together since the beginning. Best friends forever. Elise and Althea turn four years old today!
I’m not going to lie — three was ROUGH. People talk about the Terrible Twos, but no one warned me that it was merely a dry run and a ruse for the Fucktastic Threes. The crying, the name-calling, the sassing, the whining, the fighting, the willfulness, my GOD. Rough year.
But, I have to say, this has also been the year that the twins’ personalities have really emerged. I feel like I’m finally getting to know my cryptic little Scorpio children.
Althea is jovial, feminine, bold, and is affected by other people’s emotions. She’s more apt to follow directions and people-please. Althea is our big-picture person — she sees the whole room, all the people, all the fun to be had. When she’s upset, it’s easy to distract or comfort her. She’s more physically demonstrative. She colors in the lines and uses the ‘right’ colors for objects. If something doesn’t come easily, she can be quick to give up. Althea a Daddy’s girl. Interestingly, she defends her older sister and is sometimes bossed around by Elise. Words come easily to her. Her favorite colors are red and pink, and she loves ladybugs and fish. She loves to read, draw, color, and paint.
Elise is complex, complicated, dramatic, and a bit rebellious. She feels deeply and strongly and must be allowed to feel her emotions — there’s really no distracting or comforting her when she’s in the throes of a difficult moment. But, when she’s done, she’s done. She doesn’t hold a grudge and doesn’t entertain long-term punishments. Elise is a detail-oriented person and has been since her earliest cognizant moments; she’ll find the one tiny piece of star-shaped confetti in the middle of a three-ring circus. She is incredibly imaginative and can entertain herself for hours by talking to herself and playing out scenarios with small objects and characters. She loves pizza, sea life, and the color purple.
I am so, so proud of them and all they are becoming. These two girls made me a mother and continue to show me how to be patient, mindful, present. They have taught me the value of family and have challenged me to find the value in myself. Truly, they are as much my teachers and as I am a parent and teacher to them.
Happy fourth birthday, girls. Feliz cumpleaños. Zorionak! I love you so very much.