Comments on: Wean Me, Seymour http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/ A twins parenting (?) blog Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:30:46 -0400 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: MomMania http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2106 MomMania Mon, 29 Mar 2010 02:16:42 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2106 Your dilemma couldn't be more aptly timed, and similar to mine! I've also been struggling to accept a diagnosis of bipolar/mood disorder due to a long road of self-exploration - WHAM - right after I had my second, sweet little man...I was determined to nurse him as long as my first...a little over two years...but now reading your post, and the responses, I realize I may be jeopardizing his mental health WAY more by not attempting to get medical help...it's hard, though, because I'm a high-functioning person and have a hard time accepting that I have inherited bipolar/cyclothymia or a mood disorder from my father...but highly likely. Just worried I'll wean to try Lamictal, and then won't see any results, and then will have lost that time with my last one forever...do you worry about that part? I was on Zoloft, but felt exactly like you, and was only on a sub-clinical dose...just knew something wasn't right, but I wasn't ruminating over every faulty thing in my life, and had patience to sit with my older child and play! Hoping Lamictal will be the answer...THANK YOU SO MUCH for your openness so we can all benefit! Your dilemma couldn't be more aptly timed, and similar to mine! I've also been struggling to accept a diagnosis of bipolar/mood disorder due to a long road of self-exploration – WHAM – right after I had my second, sweet little man…I was determined to nurse him as long as my first…a little over two years…but now reading your post, and the responses, I realize I may be jeopardizing his mental health WAY more by not attempting to get medical help…it's hard, though, because I'm a high-functioning person and have a hard time accepting that I have inherited bipolar/cyclothymia or a mood disorder from my father…but highly likely. Just worried I'll wean to try Lamictal, and then won't see any results, and then will have lost that time with my last one forever…do you worry about that part? I was on Zoloft, but felt exactly like you, and was only on a sub-clinical dose…just knew something wasn't right, but I wasn't ruminating over every faulty thing in my life, and had patience to sit with my older child and play! Hoping Lamictal will be the answer…THANK YOU SO MUCH for your openness so we can all benefit!

]]> By: Genie http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2053 Genie Mon, 15 Mar 2010 15:36:03 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2053 I'm at month 4 of breastfeeding my first baby and if the Zoloft weren't working for me I would be in a real pickle trying to decide what to do. Maybe weaning is like a lot of other parenting things where it's much harder on the parent than the child. Your kids will be fine and they need you to be happy. Good luck! I'm at month 4 of breastfeeding my first baby and if the Zoloft weren't working for me I would be in a real pickle trying to decide what to do. Maybe weaning is like a lot of other parenting things where it's much harder on the parent than the child. Your kids will be fine and they need you to be happy. Good luck!

]]> By: Emily (another one) http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2051 Emily (another one) Mon, 15 Mar 2010 03:16:37 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2051 Ugh, I completely understand why you would be struggling with this. But I agree with all the wise mamas above who said that you need to take care of yourself first and foremost, and THAT will be the path toward taking care of your girls. Unfortunately, we can't give our children 100% perfection all the time. We're always making trade-offs and compromises, because that's how life works. This is just an especially difficult trade-off because it's so emotionally fraught: nursing your babies versus feeling sane --- sheesh, that's rough! But if you decide to wean I truly believe it will be because that's what's best for ALL of you. And no matter what, like everybody has said, you are a twin mom role model and rock star for nursing so long as it is! Anyone who reads this blog knows what a great mom you are. Sending you hugs for making this tough decision, and for saying goodbye to nursing if that's what you decide.... Ugh, I completely understand why you would be struggling with this. But I agree with all the wise mamas above who said that you need to take care of yourself first and foremost, and THAT will be the path toward taking care of your girls. Unfortunately, we can't give our children 100% perfection all the time. We're always making trade-offs and compromises, because that's how life works. This is just an especially difficult trade-off because it's so emotionally fraught: nursing your babies versus feeling sane — sheesh, that's rough! But if you decide to wean I truly believe it will be because that's what's best for ALL of you. And no matter what, like everybody has said, you are a twin mom role model and rock star for nursing so long as it is! Anyone who reads this blog knows what a great mom you are. Sending you hugs for making this tough decision, and for saying goodbye to nursing if that's what you decide….

]]> By: mrs ellenoy http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2050 mrs ellenoy Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:37:10 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2050 Yes indeed, this sucks for you. It's like you are being asked to choose one path or the other on the route to Good Motherhood, but one of them feels more selfish than the other. I have to say I agree with Megan, since your daughters will be fine once weaned, and your mental state is really important to your daughters' mental and emotional health and to the health of your marriage. Please don't feel guilty for making such a decision. The longest that mine nursed was 13 months (first child) and 9 months (second). You've done a great job. Seriously. Yes indeed, this sucks for you. It's like you are being asked to choose one path or the other on the route to Good Motherhood, but one of them feels more selfish than the other.

I have to say I agree with Megan, since your daughters will be fine once weaned, and your mental state is really important to your daughters' mental and emotional health and to the health of your marriage. Please don't feel guilty for making such a decision. The longest that mine nursed was 13 months (first child) and 9 months (second). You've done a great job. Seriously.

]]> By: 2makes4 http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2046 2makes4 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:20:19 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2046 I know, I know! It's just so hard to accept emotionally! Thanks for the input :) I know, I know! It's just so hard to accept emotionally! Thanks for the input :)

]]> By: 2makes4 http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2045 2makes4 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:18:17 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2045 "Only" 9 months?? Puh-leeze! That's awesome! Abrupt weaning definitely won't be good. I think you've got a good idea there. Maybe I could be busy once in a while during feedings and just increase the number of "missed" feedings over time. Hmmm.... "Only" 9 months?? Puh-leeze! That's awesome!

Abrupt weaning definitely won't be good. I think you've got a good idea there. Maybe I could be busy once in a while during feedings and just increase the number of "missed" feedings over time. Hmmm….

]]> By: 2makes4 http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2044 2makes4 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:15:03 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2044 HA! I could've written this myself. Which means you're awesome. Thank you thank you for this. HA! I could've written this myself. Which means you're awesome.

Thank you thank you for this.

]]> By: 2makes4 http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2043 2makes4 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:13:16 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2043 LOL! The thought of pumping alone makes me want to stop :P You're so awesome and supportive. Thank you. LOL! The thought of pumping alone makes me want to stop :P

You're so awesome and supportive. Thank you.

]]> By: 2makes4 http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2042 2makes4 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:11:35 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2042 "You babies need you to be there for them more than they need eight more months of breastmilk" Okay, this got me. I hadn't thought about it this way, and you're right. Thank you :) "You babies need you to be there for them more than they need eight more months of breastmilk"

Okay, this got me. I hadn't thought about it this way, and you're right. Thank you :)

]]> By: Emily http://www.twomakesfour.com/2010/03/11/wean-me-seymour/comment-page-1/#comment-2041 Emily Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:54:14 +0000 http://www.twomakesfour.com/?p=1464#comment-2041 I think everyone has said some very great things and I agree that you need to focus on your mental health so you can truely enjoy your little girls. I wanted to give you props for being open about your mental health issues because I know that it can be difficult for people to talk to, even though man, it sucks! I think everyone has said some very great things and I agree that you need to focus on your mental health so you can truely enjoy your little girls. I wanted to give you props for being open about your mental health issues because I know that it can be difficult for people to talk to, even though man, it sucks!

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