Comments on: Bitch, Bitch, Bitch

By: The Best Things Come in Two's

The Best Things Come in Two's — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:07:15 +0000

Please bitch! I can relate to every single thing you said in this post (well except that cat thing, but I’ve been there too). I have expereinced everything you are describing. Don’t feel bad about complaining! You have my email if you want to talk about anything! I am mostly feelin’ ya on the depression thing. I wish I could talk to my old shrink too, but he’s in Florida. . .

Seriously, I am sooo blessed, why can I not just be super happy?!

By: Tammy

Tammy — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:23:43 +0000

Seriously? Just think how life would be if you had triplets instead. Ugh! OK, now what can I do to help you? You want more stories of my son peeing on the carpet right before I am about to walk out the door for work? Or would you prefer to hear me tell you about how I stepped in cat puke when I went to the dryer last week? What about the unmentionable disgusting “waterbug” that crawled across the floor 2 nights ago? What about falling on my ass and then into the pool right before the painter arrived? Oh wait, you already heard that one. My ass still hurst, and I now have a chiropractor touch it every chance I get.

You know that even though the choices you are making may not be what you want. they don’t please you, bring joy, or stuff like that. However, the choices you are making ARE what is best for the girls which makes you the most awesome mom in the world. So many out there would not make the sacrifices you have.

As for the “I couldn’t act smart enough to get a job anyway”, my hubby stayed home for 2 yrs with our first. His brain did return. Although, he is still handicapped by the whole y-chromosome thing.

You can bitch to me anytime!

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:09:06 +0000

I’m so sorry to read this. No one could dispute that you are going through a rough patch. I have been reading your blog for a couple of months, since I found out I am pregnant with twins (you and I exchanged emails at that time). When I read last week’s posts, my heart really broke for you. I wish I lived nearby so that I could do something to help you out.

Try to keep in mind that this IS a rough patch–it’s not normal life by any means. It will pass, really it will. You just need to keep your head up for a few really crappy days, weeks, or maybe even months, and then the tide will turn again. Try to focus on one day at a time, and don’t let yourself fall into the trap of thinking that your whole future has dimmed.

Hope you don’t mind my unsolicited 2 cents.

In case it cheers you at all, I want to say again how much I love your blog. I am not usually a blog-watcher by any means, but I get so much out of reading your old pregnancy posts (I’m 26 weeks now myself) and also love reading the new updates on how you and your family are doing. Your girls are ADORABLE. (I’m having two girls myself!)

You are a fantastic mom and wife and this will all work out in the end. Hang in there!

I know this is of limited use coming from a near- stranger, but please feel free to email me if it cheers you up or you want to vent further.

By: mommymae

mommymae — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:57:35 +0000

i’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time right now. although you may not believe it now, caring for those little ladies gets easier every day. when my girls were 6-7 months old life just clicked for us. i hope it does the same for you.

By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:18:47 +0000

fuck. i’m sorry. life just fucking sucks sometimes.

on the upside, you’re awesome. so you got that goin for ya, which is nice.

By: Kara

Kara — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:59:57 +0000

*HUGS* to you. I haven’t yet commented on your blog but read it all the time. You have got the cutest twins and I love your sense of humor. While I am not a mom of twins I am a new mom to an 8 week old boy as well as girls that are 6 1/2 and 4 1/2. I can totally relate to feeling depressed. I can tell you what things worked for me during my 7 week maternity leave that maybe you can try. Money is tight for us as well fyi. Walks outside are great to get fresh air, do you have any mommy groups around you or play groups?, relatives or friends nearby that could watch the girls so you could get some much needed rest?, do you scrapbook?, journaling your feelings. I know how it feels to have your house be a disaster with dishes everywhere and laundry piling up and like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. I know you left your job to be a SAHM and that has to be really tough with only one income. Hope these ideas help and feel free to email me if you want some more ideas. I’d like to help if I can. A huge thing you have going for you is your sense of humor. You just crack me up. You will get through this and in the meantime you have some seriously CUTE kids:)